A friend was talking about a book he had to read while going to couple’s therapy. I asked to see it…and I don’t remember anything about it except these questions I found somewhere in the middle and took a picture of.

1. What do I want more than anything else in a relationship?

2. If that desire were fulfilled, what would that give me?

3. If I had that state/feeling/situation in my life, what would I really have?

4. How would I feel to have that sense of myself? How would I experience myself differently than before?

5. How would I describe this state of being (quality or essence)?

 

I’ve been focused on the quality of my friendships the past couple of years and have been confused with one

acquaintanceship in particular, not really knowing why i’m trying so hard to make it a friendship.

 

Let’s see if answering those questions will help.

1. What do I want more than anything else in THIS relationship? To be sought out. I want to be pursued as a friend.

2. If that desire were fulfilled, what would that give me? A sense of value and worth.

3. If I had that state/feeling/situation in my life, what would I really have? Confirmation that I can inspire interest and curiosity.

4. How would I feel to have that sense of myself? How would I experience myself differently than before? I would feel like I’m one of the people I admire and would work at staying someone I admire.

5. How would I describe this state of being (quality or essence)? Driven.

To be continued…